Do it for your neighbor’s cousin’s girlfriend.
January 25, 2010 at 12:29 am (Massage)
Living with chronic pain is exhausting. It gradually wears on a person until there is simply no energy left to do something about it. We know that getting a massage or taking a vacation or even getting in for a regular check up with the doctor would be really good for us. But do we schedule that appointment? No. Life is just too busy, especially if we are busy caring for children, parents, or managing a big project. We put ourselves last on the list of caretaking duties. We get tired, irritable, just downright unhappy. But what if you knew that your happiness, or lack thereof, affected everyone around you? Well, it does. In fact, not only does it affect those around you, but also those around them, and those around them. Happiness seems to spread like a contagion and researchers repeatedly find clusters of happy and unhappy people:
Clusters of happy and unhappy people are visible in the network, and the relationship between people’s happiness extends up to three degrees of separation (for example, to the friends of one’s friends’ friends). People who are surrounded by many happy people and those who are central in the network are more likely to become happy in the future. Fowler and Christakis, 2008
So, when you are putting yourself last on that list of people to make happy, you are actually perpetuating their unhappiness.
…clusters of happiness result from the spread of happiness and not just a tendency for people to associate with similar individuals. A friend who lives within a mile (about 1.6 km) and who becomes happy increases the probability that a person is happy by 25% (95% confidence interval 1% to 57%). Similar effects are seen in coresident spouses (8%, 0.2% to 16%), siblings who live within a mile (14%, 1% to 28%), and next door neighbours (34%, 7% to 70%). Effects are not seen between coworkers. Fowler and Christakis, 2008
“Effects are not seen between coworkers.” I would love to hear your thoughts about that!
Conclusions People’s happiness depends on the happiness of others with whom they are connected. This provides further justification for seeing happiness, like health, as a collective phenomenon. Fowler and Christakis, 2008
So pick up the phone right now and make that appointment. Take some days off. Start treating yourself better and dozens of people will benefit from your good work. Earlier this week I received the best testimonial yet. My client said “I was singing yesterday. I haven’t caught myself singing in – well, I don’t know how long!” That made me happy. Oh! See? It works!

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Anthony said,
February 10, 2010 at 11:28 am
Wow. That’s really interesting. I better make sure that I’m staying happy with all of my clients. I’m pretty sure I’m pretty positive with them, but I’ll make extra sure now.
Exie Buehler said,
February 22, 2010 at 1:30 pm
I was looking for massage therapy blog links to add to my blogroll and found yours. It’s great! I love this post because as stress levels rise in this country, so does the contagiousness of negativity. Regular massage therapy is so helpful because of the endorphins, those lovely “happiness hormones” that get released during a session. I know for myself, that when I get a massage, I am much more patient when things go wrong and I am happier. As the saying goes (or a variation of it), ‘when mama’s happy, everyone’s happy’!
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March 2, 2010 at 6:49 pm
Very true. Massage is the best and easiest way to make someone happy.
Rehabilitacja Warszawa said,
March 6, 2010 at 9:31 am
This blog is just awesome! Keep on that great work.
Allison Mitchell said,
March 6, 2010 at 11:34 am
I have noticed lately I am greatly influenced by the attitude of my friends. If I’m around negative people I tend to be very negative and vice versa. I am striving to change this about myself. I want to be the happy positive person no matter what and hopefully the negative people will become happy off of my vibe. In this profession it is really easy to pick up on your clients energy as well so I’m hoping I can transfer a happy energy from now on and not take on their negative energy.
I have always believed if you take care of yourself first others are automatically happy. Because they do sense if you’re happy or unhappy. Even when people think they hide their unhappiness well people around them can sense it.
Truer words have never been written.
Thanks for your blog
Adam said,
March 8, 2010 at 3:38 pm
It really is unbelievable how a therapeutic massage can change a persons whole life. Once pain and tension are released are person is actually able to be the happy person they want to be, I don’t believe people want to negative or hard to be around. I definitely don’t!! Massages are a great place to start, so take the time and make your life better.
Joyce South said,
March 18, 2010 at 1:13 pm
I just discovered your blog today and I am sure thrilled, you have great information on it. This article about how our happiness affects others is SO TRUE. I know that My mood really affects my clients and my ability to serve them. Thank you so much. Joyce South
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Yobelin Fernandez said,
April 2, 2010 at 3:05 pm
Happiness is definitely contagious. Sometimes, even when I’m feeling sad, I make myself smile, and find that that helps me and those around me. Massage is a way I have found to reduce people’s stress and increase their happiness levels. It was something I did casually for a long time, and after enough people told me I was so amazing I should do it for a living, I decided to follow my passion and get my massage therapy license. I recently started my own practice in New York City and am looking forward to using the art and science of massage therapy to spread the happiness epidemic. If you are ever in the NYC area and are looking for a licensed massage therapist, please contact me at yo@yossage.com. Take care and be well
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April 7, 2010 at 7:39 am
I think some times bad massage can make any one unhappy. But i accept that if every client will be taken care they all will be happy.
Thanks for your post.
Mindy Zimmer said,
April 7, 2010 at 11:54 am
As a massage therapist, I agree wholeheartedly with your entry. I LOVE when my clients come to me with the same stories of returning to a happy and healthy lifestyle. Keep spreading the word!
Body Options Spa said,
April 19, 2010 at 9:25 am
Right on, it’s a huge stress reliever for our clients!
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May 2, 2010 at 12:25 am
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Aura Spa said,
May 3, 2010 at 3:16 pm
You blog is always incredibly informative. Happiness is indeed contagious. We find that people who do things with others, whether they share in the massage experience with a partner or a friend, they always seem more satisfied.
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July 14, 2010 at 8:19 am
Well said Mindy, it’s the same for us with our clients!
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July 14, 2010 at 8:28 am
Great article and fantastic research information. We all need to know about this to keep reinforcing the importance of a positive attitude and not to forget, the importance of regular massage!
Nick Pavoldi said,
July 23, 2010 at 12:34 pm
Thanks for a great post! The way our bodies feel definitely affects our mood and how we live. People often underestimate what a difference massage and bodywork can make in their lives. With the right treatment, I’ve seen clients with chronic pain do a 180, even where standard physical therapy didn’t help them. – Nick Pavoldi, Bodywork Professionals http://www.bodyworkprofessionals.com
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